Deep Moods-Toddler Edition

Earlier today before I picked Caleb up from school, I had visions of picnics at the park, patio play, happy mommy/boy time. But I also know that this is often an illusion, as after school experiences often look more like this:

Today I was prepared with snacks. But it quickly went down hill. He perked back up when he discovered paint on the patio to play with. By the end of the night, he had a massive meltdown. Like, beyond rationale, beyond any hope, meltdown. I didn't even know what to do. I left him in his room screaming because he wanted to be alone. I tried holding onto him and walking. I tried other things. After I left him alone, I heard a scuffle with one of his toys. I decided I had to get back in there and intervene. I held onto him, which at some points, made him angrier. I took him outside in the patio to stand outside, but he wanted back in. Finally, the breaking point began when I started saying, "Remember, bad moods aren't here to stay. I'm here to help you through it." I repeated that a a few times, and he calmed. Finally. He was tired and feeling a little sick and his tantrum quickly spiraled out of control. But after he came out of it a little more, I stayed with him on the edge of his bed reassuring him. I don't know what the right way to handle situations like these. I know people in child development have their own ideas. But at home in the middle of an out of control meltdown, where nothing will help at all, I am just glad it broke and he calmed. I am glad I was able to at least help in some way. 

It has been an intent of mine to talk about moods and his feelings with him. I have done this through talking with him about it during certain times, and trying to give language to emotion.

For an older adults. ;)
More for little ones. 

What has been of great help actually, is this book we have. It is the only book about feelings I have right now and is called "Happy Hippo Angry Duck" by Sandra Boynton.

This book has actually been pretty a great little aid with Caleb in thinking about moods. It is a bit silly, which has been good. There have been times where we have addressed his bad moods and read this book together. It has helped take away his mood altogether before. At the very least, it has been a helpful tool to thinking about varying moods, and serving as a reminder that bad moods aren't here to stay.

One of his after school moods manifesting. We actually read the "Happy Hippo, Angry Duck" book and it broke his bad mood. Yes!
I am always thrilled when Caleb tells me he feels sad or he is happy. Getting him to think about what sort of things he is has and what type of mood he is in is great. Today, I was able to decipher that he felt upset. Obvious, I know. But out of all the words I gave him to describe his feelings and mood, that is what he said he felt. I reminded him that it was okay to feel upset in an effort to validate his feelings and distress. I briefly prayed and stayed with him, before leaving so he could sleep.

And now, I'm gonna go.

Till next time.