The Sort-Of Preschool Sex Talk

We have all learned about the birds and the bees from a variety of methods. Friends, television, movies, the internet, etc. I don't really know how I ever found out about sex. I remember taking 7th grade health with Mrs. Mohan, and having her draw scientific diagrams on the anatomy of male versus female. I don't really know how captivated this lesson rendered our class, or if it was even news to us at all. I know for one thing, I didn't learn about sex from my family or my parents. Boys might as well have been the devil. If I had a crush, I might as well have been pregnant right then and there. I am sure whatever I learned was based off of word of mouth from friends. But I still don't have any distinct memory of this stuff.

Now that I have a little boy who seems to be rapidly growing at alarming speeds (who most recently clocked in at age three and a half), I have thought about how I want to approach this whole "sex conversation" with him.

He's young. Obviously I won't be talking to him about anything detailed. I have seen a number of books for children of his age group (3-5 years), but the text of these books get so involved. They mention wombs and vagina's being stretched out, and it's all a little terrifying.

My main reason to think about this now is because he is at an age to know simple, basic facts. His dad and I have basically agreed that as of now, he should know:

-Boy and girl parts are different.
-Keep private parts private.
-Trusted people who can touch these parts and when.

I know one thing, I don't want "the sex talk" to be "a talk" at all. I want it to be an ongoing conversation that we begin now. The conversation can develop throughout his life as he does.

 It doesn't have to be a dreaded talk, and  it doesn't have to be scary or a big deal. It can just be apart of an open conversation that begins now. The goal is to keep it pleasant, factual, honest, and age appropriate.

Inevitably, teachable moments will rise where questions come up. The other day Caleb asked me about my wee wee. It was clear in that moment, that a little talk was in order about how...I do not have one. And after I told him we have different parts, he asked how spiders pee, and if they pee out of their mouths. Actually, I have no idea how spiders pee. The point is though, to grasp the moments that arise and talk about it with your child. I felt unprepared and did not go into detail about our different parts, but I think that is perfectly fine as of now. They just need a short, simple, honest answer. And they need us to be approachable and calm about all of it, and not laugh or balk at their thoughts and questions.

So far, Spencer has talked to Caleb regarding our above list. So I will leave it at that for now. But if anyone knows of any resources of books on the subject that targets kids in different age groups, I would be interested to look into it. I haven't seen any material that I like so far on the education portion of this stuff.

I am fully aware that as he grows, I will probably be the last person he wants to hear about this from on the planet. But that doesn't mean I won't try to maintain and open and approachable front about the whole thing.

Any stories of how you go about this with your family?